The First 3 Months

“Congratulations! Sleep as much as you can now, ha ha!”

In the world of pregnancy responses, this has to be the single most common piece of advice you will receive when you announce your pregnancy. Im going to let you in on a secret: despite the good intentions behind that exhortation, this advice will likely not work for you. It certainly didn’t work for me and, I think I know why.

But before I tell you why, allow me a brief digression for some context. When we found out we were pregnant, we were ecstatic — we gazed in wonder at every ultrasound scan, marveled at the sound of the…